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  • Friday, April 12, 2024 2:43 PM | Anonymous

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    by Kusum Punjabi, LMFT, DEI Director

    This month, we celebrated Autism Day on April 2, and we will commemorate Earth Day on April 22. As Earth Day approaches, it's crucial to recognize that environmental awareness affects all of us. For individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), this connection can be particularly profound.

    Autism is a developmental condition characterized by deficits in social communication and interaction as well as restricted or repetitive behaviors, interests, or activities. It affects individuals differently, but many share a deep affinity for nature. Research suggests that spending time outdoors can have calming effects, reducing stress and anxiety often experienced by those with ASD. Research also shows that individuals with autism prefer interactions with animals over humans.

    Earth Day serves as a reminder of our responsibility to protect the environment, but it also highlights the importance of inclusion. While some individuals with autism may struggle with social interactions, they often find solace and comfort in the natural world, making them fierce advocates for environmental preservation.

    Moreover, fostering a connection between individuals with ASD and the environment can offer opportunities for growth and understanding. Nature-based therapies and outdoor activities tailored to accommodate sensory sensitivities can promote well-being and enhance quality of life.

    As we celebrate Earth Day, let's remember to embrace diversity and inclusion within the environmental movement. By recognizing and harnessing the unique perspectives and passions of individuals with autism, we can work together towards a more sustainable and inclusive future for all.

  • Thursday, March 28, 2024 11:18 AM | Liliana Ramos (Administrator)

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    By Marty Klein, PhD, LMFT

    Sex therapy, first developed by Masters & Johnson back in the early 1960s, can be wonderful—life-changing, cost-effective, marriage- (and therefore family-) saving. Refined over the years by professionals such as Sandy Leiblum, Lonnie Barbach, Leonore Tiefer, Michael Perelman, and Steve Snyder, there are today about 1,000 credentialled practitioners in the U.S.

    We can do wonders, which makes this work life-affirming. We can’t do everything that people want or need, which also makes this work painful. Here are some things I’m asked to do periodically, which I just don’t know how to do—and I doubt that my colleagues, can, either:

    * Increase the sexual desire of someone for whom sex usually hurts

    We all stub our toe or bang our elbow occasionally. And sex can hurt momentarily for many reasons—accidentally pulling her hair, accidentally elbowing his balls, a leg cramp, someone moaning too loudly, miscalculating how wet your vagina or anus actually is before insertion, nipple-squeezing that’s too enthusiastic, and so on.

    That’s different from chronic pain during sex, whether that pain is around the vulva, the lower back, or anywhere else. Enjoyable sex involves focusing our attention on how our body feels. When this involves pain, who would want more of it over and over?

    I do see couples where one or both just shrug and think “sex just hurts me or my partner, and that’s how it is.” There’s often—not always—ways to reduce the frequency or intensity of the pain. Sex therapy can be very helpful with this, with specific exercises or explanations, and possibly directing people to sexually-informed health care providers (including pelvic floor therapists).

    But when sex hurts, most people simply want to do it less. I don’t blame them, and I don’t really want to change that.

    * Persuade your partner that non-monogamy is great

    Consensual non-monogamy is great for couples who, well, think it’s great.

    But when one partner wants it and the other doesn’t, persuasion is rarely a good idea. Neither is nagging. Pressure or threats? Never a good idea.

    Most of the couples I see in conflict about this don’t have a great sex life together. Whether one partner wants sex more than the other, or one partner wants activities the other doesn’t want, it’s usually the higher-desire partner who suggests an open relationship.

    My frustrated thought about this is often “great, your sex life doesn’t work, so let’s add more people. That should clear things up.”

    Instead of saying that, I tell people that successful and enjoyable non-monogamy requires a level of communication that many couples (including theirs?) don’t quite have. If the center of a couple’s unsatisfying sex life is poor communication, how can non-monogamy work? It won’t.

    If couples can’t clean up their communication—which typically requires resolving lingering resentments, a power imbalance, or lack of trust—there’s no magic way to make non-monogamy work. In such a case, it isn’t fair to just blame the partner who doesn’t want an open relationship. In fact, that person may simply be more realistic about the dead-end that a couple has reached.

    * Help your spouse understand that your disrespectful behavior is not actually disrespectful

    Practically every couple who comes into my office says they have “communication problems.” But not everybody does. Some couples communicate fairly well—with messages that they don’t like each other, don’t trust each other, or don’t enjoy each other’s company.

    Sometimes it’s mostly one-sided—one partner regularly being sarcastic, dismissive, critical, bossy, while the other person alternately begs for relief, nags back, or withdraws.

    And then one or both want to improve their sex lives.

    In most relationships, when A is chronically disrespectful to B, B typically knows it. When B has run out of energy for saying “please stop” yet again, they often shut down sexually. When they come to sex therapy, A will complain that B is too sensitive, takes things too seriously, or is unmoved by apologies.

    In such cases, how do I persuade B to “lighten up?”

    I don’t. If couples let me, I’ll help them increase mutual respect, resolve specific old wounds, and rebalance their power dynamic. But gaslight someone and urge them to ignore their partner’s hostility and disrespect? No.

    * Increase your partner’s personal hygiene if they refuse to do so

    Kiss someone who forgets to brush their teeth? Lick a penis that doesn’t get showered regularly? Cuddle up with someone who wears a shirt way beyond its “wash-me” date? Almost nobody wants to do that.

    And if you can’t get a partner to clean up their act (literally), I probably can’t. For some of these dirtier-than-thou folks, it’s a juvenile assertion of autonomy—‘I’ll do what I please.’ For others, it reflects the neglectful way they were raised. And for some, they just don’t relate to their body very much—they don’t get a periodic health checkup, don’t believe in taking vitamins, and think exercise is a waste of time.

    And then they don’t understand why their partner doesn’t desire them more. Or their partner doesn’t understand their own low desire. I can’t enhance desire for something that someone finds undesirable. In fact, I’d call that common sense, not something to fix.

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    Dr. Marty Klein has been an MFT and Certified Sex Therapist working with couples & individuals for 42 years. His books include Sexual Intelligence and His Porn, Her Pain.

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  • Saturday, September 23, 2023 10:02 AM | Anonymous

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    by Mark Mouro, LMFT

    Almost one year ago I was sitting in my office with a couple and I had noticed the wife was making significant progress and change. I asked her about it and she briefly mentioned her unconventional work with another local therapist named Nick. After the session I immediately reached out to him to find out more. We got together for coffee and then continued to meet since I was so fascinated with what he was doing. I think its important work so I asked him for an interview. Here is my interview with Nick Sanchez, LMFT.

    What is your education, training, and experience with psychedelics and psychedelic-assisted therapy?

    For formal education/training, I received my certificate in Psychedelic-Assisted Therapies and Research from the California Institute of Integral Studies a few years ago. They partner with MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) to ensure alignment across certification.

    On a more intimate level, I have worked with numerous licensed and spiritually rooted practitioners to have my own psychedelic experiences to truly understand each compound's impact on mental health challenges and overall life fulfillment.

    Which psychedelics do you work with in your practice and what is most common?

    With the current legal landscape of psychedelics, I provide preparatory and integrative sessions for clients. Many clients use the preparatory sessions to explore what compound suits their needs before seeking it out. It depends on many individual components to find what compound will give the client the result they are looking for. When people initially reach out for a preparatory session, they most often initially inquire about MDMA and Psilocybin.

    I also receive clients looking for "coaching" around how they may use the compounds in microdosing to have smaller experiences.

    As you say on your website, psychedelic-assisted therapy is illegal in the US. But California Senate Bill 58 would decriminalize personal possession and cultivation of plant-based psychedelics and the bill also aims to establish “community-based healing” practices that promote group therapeutic use of psychedelics. As of last week, it is now on the governor's desk for signature and if he signs it, S.B. 58 is set to go into effect on Jan. 1, 2025. In addition, the Zide Door church in Oakland will be providing DMT to its members next month. Will LMFTs be able to do this work legally?

    The last I heard, MAPS has just won its efforts in lobbying with the FDA to allow LMFTs that have received substantial training/certification in psychedelic-assisted therapy to receive direct access to the compounds once they are legal. Their lobbying efforts are a huge win, as the FDA originally planned only to allow psychiatrists (whether or not they received training in psychedelic-assisted therapy) access to the compounds. One of the reasons that I attended CIIS is that it allows me to take 1-2 more courses from MAPS, which would allow legal access to the compounds that can be provided by licensed/certified professionals in a therapeutic setting.

    Can you say more about your belief in the power of these substances to change people's relationship with themselves and the universe.

    I believe the mental health landscape will change drastically once psychedelics are legalized. My first experience with psychedelics felt like eight years of therapy within 7 hours, even after doing my therapy for over a decade and completing graduate school. I believe it provides a much more experiential approach to working with your mental health challenges that leave a far more lasting impact and desire to implement change after having an experience. You also are unable to hide from yourself. You can easily manage what you tell a therapist, whereas psychedelics allow you to confront areas of your consciousness in an intense and loving way.

    Many want to feel a greater sense of meaning and purpose within their lives. We want to feel "a part" of the "bigger picture". I believe psychedelics are one way of very strongly coming in contact with these ideas and allow individuals to experience a profound sense of meaning and purpose while also reminding us of how beautiful life is when our societal thought norms are stripped away.

    Many individuals will continue to use psychedelics to peel back the onion further after they have experienced relief from their mental health challenges. It becomes a powerful tool for finding direction and purpose in life.

    I work with many clients about their mortality and how we can ultimately use our death anxiety to allow us to live our most fulfilling lives. Often, psychedelics bring the experience of your mortality to the top of your mind and let you ask yourself the more significant existential questions about your existence within the universe. I have found that this alone causes individuals to experience tremendous relief from their mental health challenges while guiding them toward their true calling in life.

    I'm very interested in the selection of substance. Can you talk about the process of how you decide which substance is best for each client and their personal goals.

    It truly depends on the experience a client is looking for. We can also think about the different compounds as different intensities of the experience we want to have. Some people seek a gentler introduction to consciousness, whereas some want to dive off the highest cliff and confront the deepest and darkest parts of themselves. I work from an existential-integrative approach, which works beautifully with helping clients identify what they want from the experience, which informs the compound they would like to use.

    I think about it like a toolbox. We have different tools to apply to different scenarios. Like creating a toolbox for clients around CBT skills, I believe the same can be done with each compound.

    Much like traditional therapy, we often receive much more from the process in a slow ramp-up versus going straight into the infinite abyss. Some clients can have a traumatic experience if not approached correctly.

    You've mentioned that there are rituals, outcomes and processes surrounding the use of these substances. Can you elaborate on how the substances differ in this respect and what that means for the client.

    I would think about it like preparing for a competition. You will prepare differently depending on the type of competition you are competing in. If you are going to be running, you will not be spending time swimming, and if you are trying to prepare to pass a licensure exam for your career, you will not spend most of your time mountain biking. The compounds would be similar. We want to prepare for the experience depending on the compound. Someone who is going to be using Ayahuasca is going to have a much different experience than using MDMA. The rituals, outcomes, and processes will be generally similar, with some fine-tuning depending on what compound a client wants to experience.

    I see that preparatory, experience and integration are the main facets of your approach. Can you give an example of how many sessions and how much time each of these take on average?

    Usually, a client does about three preparatory sessions. I conduct these as traditional sessions that run 50 minutes in length. The focus is a mixture of getting a landscape of how to prepare for a journey, identifying material that could show up, and how they could effectively work with it while on the journey. Some clients may need more if they have never been to therapy before and it is their first time unpacking some life experiences.

    For integration, it depends on the experience that the individual has. I often do one integration session and will have another a month later. Integration sessions are more around how to incorporate the material and realizations that came up in their journey, and the length of ongoing sessions will depend on a client's ability to follow through with their identified action steps.

    Integration is vital as that is where the "work" is. The compounds themselves do not "fix" clients. It is the integration they do after that changes their mental health and overall quality of life. The idea of psychedelics "fixing" clients is a common area to address with clients. Many operate from the concept of current psychiatric approaches that believe the medication is where we will see the most significant impact of change.

    Why do you think it’s so difficult for most people to integrate the findings from their experience into everyday life?

    I have found that many individuals like to stay asleep in life. When we have significant experiences with psychedelics, we become awake. We see the areas we are unhappy with and confront the places we have not been paying attention to. Many individuals will have new realizations and understandings in their journeys that can feel daunting to take the first step in creating the change.

    Preparatory sessions are setting the stage for us to be ready to take action directly after an experience. We want to be proactive instead of being reactive to the material that comes up. Many people (especially in Silicon Valley) are comfortable in the rat race. Change takes effort; many of us are tired, sick, and checked out. Getting started always takes more effort than maintaining. We also want to honor the protections many clients have been walking around with for YEARS that have brought them this far in life. It takes a lot of effort, commitment, and action to get a different outcome from the life we have settled into for decades.

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel, and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons. 

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  • Saturday, July 01, 2023 4:11 PM | Anonymous
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    by Mark Mouro, LMFT

    As a therapist who specializes in working with couples, two themes I see come up time and again are stability and change. The need for consistency and the need for movement. Both are necessary in a romantic relationship, and both existed previously in the parent-child attachment.

    In early attachment relationships, infants and young children need to feel safe and secure in order to explore the world around them. They need to know that their caregiver is available and responsive to their needs, and that they will not be abandoned or rejected. When infants and young children feel safe, they are more likely to explore their environment and learn new things.

    In romantic relationships, adults also need to feel safe in order to be able to explore and grow. They need to know that their partner loves and accepts them, and that they can rely on them for support. The feeling that your partner will be there for you when you need them is critical. That sense of dependability is also important for feeling like you can be yourself and not have to worry about being judged. When adults feel safe in their relationships, they are more likely to be open to new experiences and to take risks.

    This is why in my sessions with couples we must establish a level of security first and foremost. This establishes the foundation on which we can build up from. Without a firm footing we are destined to slip and fall. It is one of the reasons I have a very structured approach with couples in the beginning sessions so that we have some predictability built in. It is meant to be a very stabilizing experience in which fairness and equity bolster the relationship.

    But when they go home, what does safety look like? I explain to my couples that this can be found in emotional intimacy, trust, and commitment. In practical terms that could be setting and respecting boundaries, communicating values and priorities or balancing power. When we feel safe in our relationships, we are able to relax and be ourselves. We can also be more vulnerable and open with our partners.

    Once there is sufficient continuity in security, the relationship can begin to shift into motion. Here is where we can be open to newness in the relationship. By taking risks in communication and behavior with your partner, it can lead to feelings of uncertainty. To step outside of your comfort zone and explore the unknown requires some comfort with anxiety. Engaging in novel experiences can be a great way for both partners to see each other in a new light and simultaneously confront vulnerability. This strengthens the relationship with growth and perhaps most importantly, we learn more about our partner. 

    Most recently, I have been working with many men who are trying to figure out whether to stay or leave their marriage. They desperately want their partner to change. And they’re fairly confident that they know their partner well enough that they can’t behave any differently. I work on getting us to a place of determining what they themselves are in charge of. Meaning if they can help their partner feel safer, then it is more likely that they will see some openness and willingness to react and respond differently. When they can create an environment of stability then their partner will feel more ready to extend themselves. Stability comes before mobility.

    When safety is lacking in a romantic relationship, it can lead to feelings of anxiety, and fear. This can make it difficult to trust your partner and to feel close to them. When adventure is lacking in a romantic relationship, it can lead to boredom, stagnation, and resentment. This can make it difficult to stay interested in your partner and to feel like your relationship is progressing.

    The trick for most couples is finding the right balance between these two paradoxical needs: Striking a healthy balance that allows for both safety and growth. To acknowledge and accept these two competing needs can value both partners and validate the relationship. This gets challenging when the need for safety and adventure can vary from person to person. Some people may need more safety than others, while others may crave more adventure. And remember that the need for safety and adventure can change over time. Herein lies the critical importance of both partners working autonomously to identify their own individual needs, communicating them to their partner and embracing a spirit of curiosity.  

    The image of a toddler going back and forth between their parent and the environment reminds me of the ongoing internal struggle between the opposites. Back then it required a balance in order to meet our needs of both freedom and safety. As adults, being able to hold this tension and find comfort in this sometimes liminal space is the beginning of individuation. Just like back then, finding the right middle ground means not too much of one and not too much of the other. I like to think of safety and adventure in romantic relationships as two opposite poles of the connection polarity that can work together to create a stronger and more dynamic bond. When both partners feel safe and adventurous, the relationship is more likely to be fulfilling and satisfying.

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel, and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons. 

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  • Saturday, March 18, 2023 7:14 PM | Anonymous

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    by Mark Mouro, LMFT

    We are now in the last three months of the two year program at PAPPTP and have just completed a case conference course. This class has been very different from all the others and has given a glimpse into the vast possibilities of psychoanalytic psychotherapy treatment. I was amazed by the variety of interpretations my classmates would make reading from the same transcript of a session. And it had me thinking about how different a session can be depending on the unique characteristics of the therapist and the relationship they have with the client. 

    In times like this, I am reminded of the parable of the blind men and the elephant. Then therapists listening to a session and each one giving their own perspective based on personal experience, emotional reactions, and clinical desires. Only when taken as a sum do you really get a more complete picture of the client and a more in-depth understanding of the case.

    I should note that this is not uncommon and I, like most of you I imagine, have participated in similar groups in the past. Before getting licensed, I was in numerous supervision groups with other associates discussing each other’s cases; after getting licensed I enjoyed being a part of consultation groups with colleagues. But this one was different. There were a handful of guidelines that I believe made it possible to benefit from this one in a much different way.

    For six weeks, one classmate was chosen to present an ongoing case each week. Right before class she sent out a transcript of one session that week and then she read it out loud during class. The professor would have her pause every once-in-a-while and ask mainly two things from the students. What thoughts do you have on the nature of the transference and what feelings and reactions does the client evoke in you in this moment? In addition, the rule was no asking the presenter questions and she would hold off on any of her own comments about our discussion.

    Following these principles allowed the discussion to be more about the client and how each one of us can see things differently rather than it being a critique on how the therapist is doing in session and what we think she can do better. The collaboration of each person sharing their observation and insights helped us to identify factors that may have been overlooked as well as potential barriers to treatment. This provided a more rich and nuanced understanding of the numerous dynamics constantly at play that we most likely are not aware of. In particular, how the transference and distinct countertransference in each of us can potentially facilitate the treatment in its own unique way.

    Betty Joseph (1985) defines transference as “everything that the patient brings into the relationship… gauged by our focusing our attention on what is going on within the relationship, how (the patient) is using the analyst, alongside and beyond what (the patient) is saying”. She goes on, “Much of our understanding of the transference comes through our understanding of how our patients act on us to feel things for many varied reasons; how they try to draw us into their defensive systems; how they unconsciously act out with us in the transference, trying to get us to act out with them; how they convey aspects of their inner world built up from infancy—elaborated in childhood and adulthood experiences often beyond the use of words, which we can often only capture through the feelings aroused in us, through our countertransference, used in the broad sense of the word” (p. 447).

    And for the therapist presenting her case and how this class affected the relationship with her client? I recently spoke to her after the course finished and she confirmed that the classes notes subtly affected the direction of her sessions. She also remarked that there were things she never would have noticed about the client and the sessions before this exercise. But it was an intense and rigorous experience for her because she thought about the client so much due to notes after session, reading what her client said, and hearing the client being talked about in class. In the end, though she felt it was a massive amount of learning for her, this wasn't really a process for her as much as for everyone to learn from each other. This collage pieced together illustrated how complex the process of therapy can be.  And it humbled me by showing the expansiveness of the human spirit that we are not always cognizant of.  

    As mental health professionals, it is not uncommon to experience tunnel vision or become overly focused on one aspect of a client’s case. Sharing with a group of professionals with diverse backgrounds and experiences can help to broaden and deepen the understanding of a case; it allows to create fresh insights and ideas to the table. When we can work together to develop a more comprehensive understanding of the patient's condition, then we all benefit from it.

    Joseph, B. (1985) Transference: The total situation. International Journal of Psychoanalysis 66, 447-454.

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel, and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons.

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  • Monday, January 09, 2023 3:14 AM | Anonymous

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    by Mark Mouro, LMFT

    I can recall being a grad student and hearing a teacher explain that the job of a Marriage and Family Therapist is to help people with their relationships. Soon after that, I will never forget working as an intern and experiencing the push and pull of transference in relation to my clients. And now, most of my training and experience is focused on the relationship between partners in couples therapy. Perhaps, then, it is no surprise that what has inspired and excited me most about being in the Palo Alto Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program (PAPPTP) is learning about the relational perspective of psychoanalysis.

    Relational psychoanalysis has been defined by the APA as “a psychoanalytic approach incorporating aspects of several theoretical perspectives, such as object relations theory and interpersonal theory. It focuses on an individual’s sense of self and patterns of relating to others as developed in early relationships and in treatment it emphasizes the importance of the relationship between a patient and analyst or therapist in helping the patient understand those patterns and form new ones.”

    This description really did not match up with my image of psychoanalysis: the therapist in the chair behind the patient, the patient on the couch, and never shall their eyes meet. It seems to put the interactions between the therapist and patient front and center with the various forms of communication being expressed. This shift away from the intrasubjective (our inner experiences) to focus on the intersubjective (the space between two persons or the impact of relationships) really appealed to me.

    I had to ask myself why this approach speaks to me personally. In my teenage years, play was a huge part of my life through sports. I expressed a lot of emotions and made close connections through athletics. Upon entering college, I discovered the theater and fell in love with improvisation and co-creation of a new reality. It was both in play and spontaneity that I felt most alive. Both gave me a sense of risk, adventure, and reward. Now, as a professional, I find that vitality exists more often when these elements are present in session.

    In many of these sessions, when the client’s level of trust in me is good enough, improvisation can lead the way. The two of us can play with ideas and feelings. This spirit produces a dynamic space where we build on each other’s contributions. They tell me their version of reality while I add some elements to it that I experience. They acknowledge and disclose additional details that they are aware of. Only together, can we both understand what is really going on. It becomes a sort of negotiation of different perspectives.

    In relational psychoanalysis, interpersonal relationships are seen as the basis of human development. The emphasis is added on the role of relationships in both creating and healing suffering. Therefore, the therapeutic process is seen as a reciprocal system. The relationship between client therapist provides the best opportunity for intervention since the organization of mind is most accessible in the room between two people.

    This two-person psychological model is built on mutual influence and equality. A definite shift away from the expert dictating to the sick person who they are and what they want. Less interpretation and more self-disclosure here. There is not one person in charge of the truth. This approach to psychotherapy demands authenticity on the part of the therapist. A real showing up, coming to the table, and being available in many ways to engage. This makes sense to me given that mutual regulation and mutual influence are always happening at some level or another. I can definitely say that I am a different version of myself with each client and that is due to who the client is and the unique way we connect.

    The difficulty I encounter most often is disrupting the universe. Just like my clients, I have a hard time changing the dynamics of the relationship after the gel has solidified. There are various clients with whom I feel we are locked into certain roles at some point. From the get-go, the client uses me as an object, and over time I start to feel the sessions becoming narrow in scope. My participation feels contained to a rigid frame. As a result, the client restricts themself to cursory explanations. There is no mutual give and take, no openness to exploration, right or wrong. There is no discovery. The sessions have become flat. There is no wondering and much less, any wandering.

    From a relational perspective then, my stretch would be to face it head on with questions that give context to the mutuality of our experience. This means frequently asking my clients what they imagine I am thinking or feeling in reaction to them. Or “I think you think I am feeling….” or “I think you have the impression that I…..”. Taking it even further might be when I tear up and they have a blank face I ask them if they have any thoughts about why I am tearing up and it does not look like they are being affected emotionally. Or even “I wonder why I said that as a therapist, why do you think?”

    This co-creation of interpretations is something I am still struggling with. It feels like a big risk. Yet, I know that most of the time when I venture out there, a big reward is awaiting. And isn’t that part of our work? Leading by example with vulnerability. It is the glue that binds us all together.

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons. 

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  • Sunday, October 09, 2022 5:18 PM | Anonymous

    by Mark Mouro, LMFT
    Fall 2022 Newsletter

    It is summertime as I write this, and we are on break from classes at the Palo Alto Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program (PAPPTP). Therefore, this article will discuss my case consultation for the first year. To receive a certificate of completion of the program as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, students must treat two patients (one each year) with accompanying weekly case consultation. PAPPTP strongly encourages you to see these cases more than once a week, since increased frequency typically facilitates greater engagement and therapeutic efficacy. The PAPPTP roster of case consultants is limited to analyst members and psychoanalytic candidates of the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis (SFCP). Thankfully, case consultants offer reduced fees for candidates.

    From the beginning my consultant stressed the importance of writing down thoughts and feelings immediately after each session. I would take a couple of minutes to note a few impressions that I could return to later. This got me in the practice of sitting for a moment and being mindful of what is left in the wake of a session. What promptly remained at the close of a session may take on significant meaning on further reflection. And that seemed to shape the focus for each consultation. It gave me a starting point to think about why these things stood out most.

    While it is suggested and ideal to have one patient for the entire year, that just did not happen for me. But it gave me an opportunity to try different ways to engage in my case in consultation. For the first patient I was able to audio record our sessions, and not surprisingly, that turned out to be invaluable. This is something I had not done since before I was licensed, and yet, always knew it was one of the best ways to analyze my work and improve as a therapist. First and foremost, just listening to the session afterwards gave me a different perspective. So frequently I found myself catching things that I missed when I listened to the session later. A specific word, an inflection point or a pause the second time around can take on greater meaning. But surprisingly, it was the process of transcribing and reading out the session line by line in consultation that offered me a divergent view at times. Reading my patient’s words forced me to think about them differently. Paying particular attention to the ways in which they constructed their sentences, the tempo in which they expressed their thoughts, and the direction they went with their ideas had me reflecting more deeply on my original interpretations.   

    The second main takeaway in case consultation was the way in which my consultant gave feedback. I was expecting some form of criticism or approval but that never came. Rather, she offered her thoughts on what an analytic response to the patient might sound like. She suggested ways to think differently by how the patient’s words or phrases might be understood. She also gave her own interpretations on the patient’s motivations and emotions. After listening to my reading of what was said in session and my thoughts on what was transpiring in the moment, she then gave an alternative explanation on the meaning of our interaction. This was never done with a comment that my way was wrong or right, just different. And trust me, at times I really wanted a debate! But as you might have guessed, this helped in the beginning to create an environment in which I never felt judged or inadequate. And fittingly, that allowed me to bring forth any of my insecurities.  

    Perhaps the most salient takeaway, though, was how frequently she returned to the theme of the relationship between the patient and me. She spoke about how important it is to look for the opportunities to comment on what is happening between the two of us in the moment. Or inquire how the patient understands what is happening between the two of us, right then and there. For this client in particular, I would be mindful of times in which they might be fearful of disclosing something. This could provide a chance for the patient to reflect on their level of trust in me. And that could help us explore the deep seated shame they experience with me and others around them. Maybe then, in relation, the harsh criticism they have for their self would loosen its hold.   
    Looking forward, another thing in case consultation that I hope to develop more, as I gain more experience, is creating a space for the patient to reflect on how they think. I will be looking for ways to invite my patient to investigate their particular method of relating to others and their self. Just as my consultant is guiding me to shift the way in which I see things, my goal in session is to get my patient interested in being curious about their own metacognition.

    Those of us in private practice have a very unique line of work in which it is possible that no colleague or boss could ever see our work. And I think the longer that goes on, the more reticent we may be to get consultation. Once we get past any initial intimidation, case consultation may be one of the best ways to ensure we are providing the best service we can.  This experience has provided me greater confidence in my ability and an increased competence in my work. 

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons. 

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  • Wednesday, June 15, 2022 12:58 PM | Anonymous

    by Mark Mouro, LMFT
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    The first year of training at The Palo Alto Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program (PAPPTP) has concluded and I am starting to feel like I am getting a better grasp of psychoanalytic psychotherapy. I began the program with a strong curiosity in utilizing transference and countertransference with my clients. Recent classes covering projective identification have helped me to become more aware of what my clients may need from me and why. And now I am finding myself being drawn specifically to the relational model of psychoanalytic psychotherapy

    In weekly consultations, I have discussed instances when clients speak about how different they feel now in comparison to the beginning of therapy.  It has happened in the past that I expected patients would raise this subject when they were ready to end therapy.  In one recent occasion, however, when this moment arose in session, the feeling was different and unfamiliar compared to the past.  The topic of ending therapy did not come up.  I wondered then why I had felt a sense of rejection this time as opposed to other past occurrences.  

    The emotion that came up for me was important information that would guide me toward what the client may require. So now when something feels out of place, I try to first recognize what is being stirred up in me; then I think about where it could be coming from. Is this my unresolved issues? Is this a feeling that my client has and needs to dispel because it is unbearable? Or is this a feeling my client has about someone else and now it is being redirected towards me? Once I have a handle on what it may be, then I need to mindfully respond to it the way the client needs, rather than react to my raw emotion. I need not simply to dismiss the emotion myself nor heedlessly reciprocate it.  But how would I know whether it is my or their stuff? Or maybe even something in-between?

    For years it had been my assumption that psychoanalysis necessitated lengthy discussions of early developmental childhood. In some ways that contradicts what I am discovering. I am finding I do not need details of my clients experiences from decades ago. In fact, what we need most exists in the here and now. The singularity of the moment. The back and forth, give and take of their expression, and my novel response. Their hidden hopes and my resulting affect. My willingness to be receptive and show how they have an impact on me. This is our dance that moves from my ability to improvise and to be improvised by the music of the session if you will.

    As I began to really tune in to the unique tone of connection, I wanted to know about possible deeper meanings underlying the interactions. One concept from class that stuck with me is reverie. It has been described as our daydreams, fleeting perceptions, bodily sensations, and ruminations. And then elaborated and expanded upon by Thomas Ogden (1997) in San Francisco who said "Paradoxically, as personal and private as our reveries feel to us, it is misleading to view them as ‘our’ personal creations, since reverie is at the same time an aspect of a jointly (but asymmetrically) created unconscious intersubjective construction that I have termed ‘the intersubjective analytic
    third’ (p. 569)". Is this the compass I had been looking for to gauge what might be happening at an unconscious level in the relationship? I wondered how much of this I am aware of, and perhaps more importantly, how much of it is motivating my behavior.

    I was eager to try this in session, and when I did, the irony is that it felt contradictory to what I initially thought I should be doing as a therapist. When the opportunity presented itself, I would break eye contact with my clients, look out the window, listen a little less to their words, and try to capture more of the meaning. I would imagine tuning down one string and tuning up another. If something felt a bit off-center then I would present it to them and see if it resonated.

    Nowadays I look for the repetitive themes in my clients relationships. I search  for patterns of interactions with others and ultimately with me. When they speak of their relationships with others, now I may be thinking of how that could apply to us. I ask myself what part I might be cast in in the narrative that is playing out between us.

    The clients with whom I felt a sense of rejection with, I now take a different view to the process. I imagine they are giving me the experience they feel and have felt so deeply time and time again. This presents a rich opportunity to name, understand, and ultimately change the pattern of how they view their role and others’ in a relationship. If I can recognize it, metabolize it and then offer to them what it feels like for me, maybe they will feel more understood. But more than that, I hope to give meaning to their previous experiences by creating a new one.  

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons. 

    Ogden, T. H. (1997). Reverie and interpretation. Psychoanalytic Quarterly, 66, 567-595.

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  • Saturday, March 19, 2022 12:51 PM | Anonymous

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    by Jessica Sorci, LMFT

    Jessica Sorci, LMFT is a Certified IFS (Internal Family Systems) Therapist and a Certified Perinatal Mental Health Professional with advanced training in Intimacy From the Inside Out (working with couples using IFS). In her early adulthood, Jessica devoted her life to her own emotional healing; as a Founding Director of Family Tree Wellness in Silicon Valley, she brings her wealth of compassion and knowledge to the clinical training and supervision of therapists as well as the healing journeys of clients. Jessica blends her love of IFS with her extensive background in creative expression and spirituality to create one-of-a-kind trainings and workshops that reach people's hearts and open their minds. With a view that mothering is the heart of our humanity, Jessica knows that the health of our world depends upon women and families receiving attuned support during their most tender times in life.

    Our Western medical model understands and addresses the suffering that many women encounter perinatally as a disorder. This lens implies pathology. The concept of matrescence provides a more soulful, holistic, and empowering lens to look through when we think about new motherhood. Diagnostically, this territory is known as the realm of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders or PMADs. About 85% of women experience some type of mood disturbance postpartum and 15-20% of new mothers have a more significant, pervasive or unrelenting suffering, most commonly called Postpartum Depression (PPD) (MGH Center for Women's Mental Health, 2019). If the majority of women experience profound discomfort during the transformation to motherhood, how can we call what appears to be nearly ubiquitous, a disorder? Changing the current patriarchal paradigm in which new moms are “disordered” to one in which new motherhood is widely understood to be the most radical and challenging transition in a female human being’s lifetime is necessary for the health of our humanity.  New motherhood is deserving of more attention, funding, compassion, care, support, and appreciation than it has ever received.

    I am a Founding Director at Family Tree Wellness, a group psychotherapy practice dedicated to reproductive mental health, located in Campbell, California. Most of the new mothers we see in our practice come to us seeking support for PPD or PPA (postpartum depression or anxiety) and are experiencing intense symptoms of insomnia, anxiety, despair, shame and self-criticism. What we commonly call postpartum depression is actually the amalgamation of significant brain changes, hormonal surges and identity transformation that sweeps perinatal women into raw vulnerability, from which they encounter the additional challenges of sleep deprivation, parenting an unsettled newborn and sometimes birth-related trauma, all set against the backdrop of their own attachment histories, as well as the reality of their present-day resources or lack thereof. In that complex equation there are abundant opportunities for essential elements of critical care to fall through the cracks. The biopsychosocial environment of a new mother, met with the inherent vulnerability and dependence of new motherhood, breeds either wellness or an experience of danger and survival threat. The experience of real or perceived survival threat, commingled with shame, produces what we diagnose as PMADs.

    We introduce these women to the concept of matrescence as a way of describing the normative adaptation to motherhood, with the recognition that this transformative phase of life is wild, dramatic and difficult, without pathologizing them. The term matrescence was coined by medical anthropologist Dana Raphael, PhD in the 1970’s (Zimmerman, 2018) to capture the reality that new motherhood is simultaneously stressful, growth-inducing and inherently full of ambivalent feelings. Ambivalence can be very triggering for people who have been indoctrinated to believe that good mothers feel only positive feelings about themselves and their babies. In fact, ambivalence is natural and is viewed as an inevitable aspect of growth and change through the lens of matrescence. Matrescence refers to a phase of life, not unlike adolescence, in that it describes an uncomfortable and critical physiological, developmental transition that entirely reworks one’s biology and identity. Polarized feelings are common in this time of life—immense love for the new baby as well as opposing feelings about dislike of the job itself. Women are given a forgiving, expansive lens through which to look at their experience, where they are allowed to feel and express their grief and loss along with their pride and confidence. The normalization of these feelings of ambivalence, grief and loss supports the growth of self-trust and resilience that are crucial to a mother’s healthy development.

    In our experience, we see that a large portion of the suffering in matrescent women is shame-based and stems directly from taboos around acknowledging the dark side of mothering. “One study found that mothers feared that disclosure of depression would meet with an unsympathetic response, and would imply that they had failed as mothers” (Kumar & Brockington, 1989, p. 174). This feeling of failure and its accompanying shame are a backdrop to nearly all perinatal mental health struggles. As informed clinicians, we can understand and anticipate this dynamic, and destigmatize the shadow side of motherhood to help relax and soften the way new moms feel about themselves.

    Body Changes, Brain Changes, Loss
    The biological and physical changes of new motherhood are undeniably challenging, but the dynamics of matrescence on a woman’s psychological and spiritual existence are even more earth shattering. In less than a year, a woman’s former body and her familiar sense of her physical and psychological identity are gone, and an entirely new, rather shocking constellation of experiences emerge. The typical biology of pregnancy and new motherhood include the rising and falling of reproductive hormones that dramatically color mood and perception in mothers. During pregnancy, estrogen and progesterone levels have increased 10 to 100 times, but within 24 hours of giving birth, those hormone levels crash down to roughly zero (Colino & Fabian-Weber, 2021). These hormonal fluctuations are designed to facilitate the symbiotic relationship between mother and infant, and along with measurable changes in mom’s brain, these hormones equip her to bond with and feed her baby. Much of mom’s biology gets behind this critical symbiotic mandate. Her nervous system must essentially download and replicate itself in her infant, and the shared identity and oneness help mom intuit and prioritize the baby's needs, even over her own. Margaret Mahler (as cited in Koenisberg, 1989) defined symbiosis as “that state of undifferentiation, of fusion with mother, in which the ‘I’ is not yet differentiated from the ‘not I’” (p. 1). This biological imperative for mom to bond and for baby to attach to mom as an auxiliary nervous system forces new moms into what we refer to as “the portal'', an inner dimension that houses mom’s implicit knowledge of what it is to be human, to be close, to be dependent and vulnerable. This portal sensitizes moms to their own early attachment knowledge, which is essentially implicit survival-related experience, most of which was laid down in the right brain, in her first years of life.

    In looking at the neuroscience underlying perinatal experiences, we see that the brain changes significantly in matrescence, to enable symbiosis and right brain, portal access. According to Allan Schore (1994), it is the emotional right hemisphere that is more connected with the emotional state of the fetus and later the baby—not the left hemisphere. Babies are right brain dominant until their second year, meaning they experience the world non-verbally, somatically, and emotionally. The shift away from the verbal, logical and linear world of left brain dominance is necessary for new moms to make sense of their nonverbal baby, connect deeply with that baby, and ultimately wire their implicit attachment system to that baby. Studies show that these significant brain changes “predicted the quality of maternal bonding and the absence of hostility toward their newborns in the postpartum period. These reductions continued for at least two years post-pregnancy and prepared women for the transition into motherhood” (Gholampour, Riem, & van den Heuvel, 2020).

    What does it feel like for mom to shift into right brain dominance?
    As the right hemisphere of mom’s brain comes actively online and engages in its non-verbal dance with her baby, mom can feel awash in evocative emotional material that might be destabilizing, depending on its content. There is an experience of being more present, less connected to time, less verbal, less logical, and more emotionally alive. This phenomenon is sometimes referred to disparagingly as “mommy brain”, but rather than being a diminution in function, these profound changes are in fact a heightened kind of functioning, designed to connect moms to their babies. And yet…that does not always feel so good for mom.

    As it turns out, a huge component of matrescence involves contending with one’s attachment history and weaving that history into the present-day relationship with this precious new baby. Sleep deprived, emotionally raw moms become more aware of ways they could falter, and so they often double down, becoming perfectionistic in an effort to not “screw up my baby”. It's a monumental task for many moms with preexisting emotional wounds, to do that weaving in a way that feels, in the words of Donald Winnicott (1953),  “good enough” (page 89). And it is common for anxious new moms to forgo self-care and become very preoccupied with this task of not screwing up (which never produces good results). For most moms, nothing has ever felt so critically important as being a good mom, and they have never been so exclusively responsible for a dependent being. This territory is ripe for feelings of high-anxiety, failure, shame and despair!

    What Supports Best Outcomes?
    Moms can only relocate to their right brain and move into symbiosis with their babies when they feel safe and well supported, when their environment allows them to exist peacefully in a less verbal, linear, logical world, while they symbiotically merge with their baby and begin to download their (hopefully) calm, attuned nervous systems. Moms who do not feel safe and well supported (inside and/or outside) will get caught in an experience of survival threat, will automatically shift out of right-brain connection mode, and into a more defensive position, or “protection mode”. When moms mother from protection mode, families do not thrive.

    Matrescence, as a holistic paradigm, acknowledges the growth and expansion of new motherhood, and also the extensive losses new motherhood brings to women. Women certainly disproportionately experience losses around career, power, influence, and earning (Sandler & Szembrot). Less measurable are all the personal losses: her body, sex drive, sleep, freedom and time to herself. Even when things are going well in matrescence, there is loss, which often comes as a total surprise and a deep disappointment to new mothers, who commonly work very hard to avoid the reality of their grief and the shame associated with feeling such loss in the wake of the beautiful new life they have created. Culturally, women are steeped in intense critical messaging that has a lot to say about how new moms SHOULD feel. As a result, these common and natural feelings of loss, regret and loneliness, seem to walk hand in hand with shame and isolation.

    Thriving in matrescence, like thriving in adolescence, requires steady, attuned support from outside. Unfortunately, in current American society, women in the perinatal phase of life are subjected to oppressive burdens unique to motherhood, full of high-pressure, high-stakes messaging around how to mother best: breast over bottle, cloth vs. disposable, home birth vs. hospital birth, sleep training, how much weight you should gain, how fast you should lose it, etc. This messaging permeates our families of origin and our larger culture, which in turn, sets new moms up for immense disappointment and failure. Experiences of disappointment and failure in new moms morph quickly into symptoms that constellate around perfectionism, self-doubt, guilt, inadequacy, intrusive thoughts and shame. It is in this painful soup that new moms start to identify as “bad moms” and lose trust in themselves. There is so much shame in feeling like you are not a good mom and when new moms lose trust in themselves, they inevitably disconnect from their babies.

    Building Self-Trust and Healing Humanity’s Wounds
    A primary developmental task of matrescence is developing trust in one’s self as a good enough mother. The development of self-trust is delayed or challenged by preexisting traumas, legacy burdens (racism, oppression, poverty), inadequate resources, and biological dysregulation. On the whole, mothers are highly motivated to mother well. As the challenges and difficulties of matrescence emerge, new moms tend to be more open to deep inner work and more receptive to help and to change than in more stable phases of life. When the portal is open, we have an opportunity to access the deepest implicit matriarchal wounds humanity carries—and heal them. Growing self-trust in mothers infuses their mothering with confidence, calm, compassion, curiosity, clarity, creativity, courage and connectedness (Schwartz, 2020), all of which nourish her baby, who then grows up to propagate those qualities. When a new mom learns she can trust herself, she has natural resilience and moves successfully through the challenges of matrescence, toward a sense of greater wholeness. Trust and self-compassion are antidotes to the self-doubt and self-criticism that fuel so much perinatal suffering.

    At Family Tree Wellness, we know that mothers are the greatest influencers for the next generation. Helping mothers find calm and confidence gives society our best shot at future peace and wellbeing. Techniques and models that we find helpful are those that acknowledge and honor matrescence inclusive of its shadow side. Family Tree Wellness is an Internal Family Systems informed practice, and we deeply appreciate the model’s holistic, nonpathologizing and validating nature. Along with affirming new mom parts and helping women unblend from harsh inner critics and other extreme protectors, we also offer psychoeducation and facilitate support groups that are respectful of the unique needs of this developmental time. We hold a feminist stance that values the work of mothers and acknowledges that our social policies fall abysmally short. We also know that it is equally important to help fathers, partners and our larger communities understand the support new moms need.

    When motherhood has not been valued or respected, women have forged through these difficult years isolated and depleted, judging ourselves and other women, stripped of the soulfulness and sisterhood that was our birthright, missing the celebration of ourselves as matrescent—as brand new moms being birthed right alongside our babies. In a world where matrescence is not recognized and respected, new moms look for ways to measure some sort of success and validation, often landing on things like material acquisitions, the shape and weight of our bodies, our babies’ achievements and milestones and our ability to juggle 1000 things simultaneously as proof of our worth. The result? Mommy wars. Maternal depletion. Auto-immune disease. Helicopter parenting. Loneliness. Depression and anxiety.

    Matrescence is a powerful and unique developmental phase of life that forces new moms to reckon with individual and collective pain and trauma. By showing up in an informed and supportive way, clinicians can affect fundamental security in a woman, in her baby and ultimately in society as a whole. This is a critical shift in our cultural paradigm. Mothering is, in fact, the very heart of our humanity; the developmental phase of matrescence deserves to be held with reverence and extreme kindness for the ultimate development of a benevolent society.  


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    Zimmerman, E. (2018, May 25). The identity formation of becoming a mom. The Cut. Retrieved from:

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  • Saturday, March 19, 2022 4:56 AM | Anonymous

    by Mark Mouro, LMFT
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    It was not very long once I started private practice that I had two strong feelings. One, there are many different ways to do this work. And two, learning how to do them well will be a lifelong process. That notion motivated me to enroll in a 2-year program at Palo Alto Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program (PAPPTP). And what I’ve gotten out of it so far has deepened my work and given me more of an appreciation for what we do.

    Therapy is a second career for me so I when went back to school to get a master's degree I was still working a full time job during the day. I bring this up because my classes in school and some of the internships sort of felt like a blur to me.  There were many times I recall coming across some really interesting material but not having the opportunity to delve further into it. Recently I’ve had some flexibility in my schedule, so learning psychoanalytic psychotherapy in a different venue while working as a therapist seemed like a good fit.

    As you may know, psychoanalytic psychotherapy developed out of the field of psychoanalysis but the objectives, setting, and technique vary. The objectives for psychoanalytic psychotherapy are more focused and limited, the setting is once or twice a week with the patient sitting up, and the technique may be much more active on the part of the therapist.

    But why psychoanalytic psychotherapy specifically? Before the pandemic I had been in a consultation group led by a psychoanalyst. He suggested we read some recent psychoanalytic journal articles and they struck a chord with me. I had been aware of research articles but this was the first time I had read theoretical articles. The authors introduced and discussed abstract ideas and principles that I experienced in sessions but hadn’t been able to put words to. They explained and predicted the phenomena I was struggling with at times. It was exciting to see what direction our field was going in and feel an intellectual kinship. This wasn't a textbook informing on modality. This was one person's personal exploration of what works and doesn't work for him. And that spirit of learning through experimenting, hits and misses really resonated with me.

    But perhaps most importantly, I was starting to feel that I was coming up short in my ability to use transference as an intervention. In my experience as both a therapist and client, I had seen how powerful transference and countertransference could be when used properly. And I wanted to sharpen my ability and understanding of it. But I didn’t want to become a psychoanalyst necessarily, I just wanted the ability to apply analytic thinking if need be.  
    Here are the basics of the program. The training at PAPPTP offers concepts and theory of contemporary psychoanalytic psychotherapy which include child development research, attachment theory, therapy process and outcome research, psychodynamic diagnosis, and neuropsychoanalysis. The class consists of 10 students made up of MFTs, social workers, psychiatrists and psychologists. There are 2 classes from 8:30am-12pm every Friday. The topic of the classes change every couple of months and we take the summer off between year 1 and 2.

    It has been about 6 months since I began the training and I’ve definitely come away with an appreciation for just how much contemporary psychoanalysis has evolved. While there are similarities, the material is much more applicable than what I learned in school. Contemporary psychoanalysis is attempting to incorporate many different theories and as someone who enjoys contrasting perspectives, this felt right for me.  More specifically, the classes achieve of a good balance of reading theories rooted in the past and also ideas on the frontier.

    While doing classes over Zoom isn’t my preferred method, we are getting by and everyone is making the best of it with hopes to begin meeting in person on the Stanford campus soon. It is nice to have a group of clinicians to meet with over 2 years to develop a rapport with and learn from. Another significant element is mentorship. Each year we meet with one consultant on a weekly basis to discuss a case. I’ve just started this process but I can already tell it’s a great opportunity to examine the evolution of a client and how to best work with them. And last but not least is the teachers. All of them are working therapists and or professors at Stanford and each sees and approaches the work differently. But they all have in common a passion that drives them to volunteer and improve how we work with our clients, or patients.

    Mark Mouro, LMFT is a psychotherapist working in private practice in San Jose. He specializes in working with couples and many of his clients are parents with young children. He is currently in psychoanalytic psychotherapy training at PAPPTP. Previously, he was a therapist on staff at The Couples Institute in Menlo Park. He lists his experiences with Vipassana meditation, foreign travel and lobbying with CAMFT as being most influential. Mark lives in Willow Glen with his tech working wife and two young sons. 

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